- [Instructor] Hey, Psych2Goers, and welcome back to our channel. Thank you all so much for the
love that you've given us. Your ongoing support has
helped us make psychology and mental health more
accessible to everyone. So thank you. Now let's continue. As humans we're constantly
growing and changing. Have you ever found
yourself becoming distant from someone you used to
be close friends with? Whether it's due to different life goals our ever shifting personalities
or a location change, it's never easy to have to let someone go. Outgrowing a friendship
is also a sign of maturity and the ability to recognize
what you want in a good friend. While it's undoubtedly sad, drifting apart from a friend is natural and may even turn out to be
a good thing in the long run. Do you think you can still
salvage your friendship or is your friendship
no longer compatible? To answer that, here are five signs you've
outgrown your friendship. Number one, your values conflict. As you go through life
and gain new experiences, your values and morals will change. We often tend to seek
friends with similar beliefs. So if you find that you
no longer agree with what your friend does or says it may be a sign you've outgrown them. Of course you shouldn't stop
being friends with someone just because you happen to
disagree with something. But if it's a fundamental disagreement about a topic that's
really important to you you may find yourself
wanting to spend more time around like-minded people. Number two, you don't spend
time together anymore. Simply put, when you like someone enough you always try to make time for them. If you and your friend are
routinely making excuses not to hang out, it may be a sign you no longer
enjoy each other's company. Your interests, senses of humor or personalities may have
fallen out of compatibility with each other, while it's painful to go through, it's a sign you've
outgrown your friendship and are wanting to seek
out friends who compliment and balance you out more. Number three, you don't
tell each other everything like you used to. As cliche is it sounds, friends often do tell
each other everything. If you're holding back from
telling your friends something due to fear of being criticized
or them not understanding, it's probably a sign you're
no longer comfortable around them. Friendship is based upon mutual trust, communication, and respect. And if you find yourself
becoming wary of your friend, it's likely time to try and move on. After all everyone
deserves to have someone they can confide in without
fear of judgment or shame. Number four, things don't feel
natural with them anymore. How do you feel around them? Friendship is about having a
healthy, emotional connection with someone. If you two lose that connection over time, your conversations might become dull. You'll have less energy around them and the tension between
you two will increase. In the end, a friendship should make you happy and be an enjoyable
experience for you both. If it isn't sustainable
any longer, that's okay. And you can allow yourself to move on. Number five, would you still be friends with
them if you met them today? Think back to who you were five years ago. Chances are you're a
completely different person with new hobbies, personality
traits, and goals. You've evolved and changed, which means the people that you want around you have likely changed too. If you met your old friend
as the person you are today, would you two still be compatible? If the answer is no, then you've probably
moved past the friendship. After all, sometimes the only
thing connecting two people is their past together. The process of outgrowing friends and finding new people is never ending. As all of us are constantly changing. Knowing this, you don't
have to blame yourself for drifting apart from a friend. While both of you can
make your best effort to maintain your friendship, it's common for people
to slowly go distant. It's completely natural and normal. If anything, it means you're evolving to become a more balanced and
mature version of yourself. Are you currently experiencing
a change in friends? If so, how's that going? Let us know in the comments below. Please like and share this
video if it helped you and you think it can
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