Hi, I’m bobby rio, and how can you display
confidence when talking to a woman, especially if you’re older than her, and even if you
feel a little out of your element talking to her. So, a lot of my private clients are men in
their 40s 50s and 60s, and a lot of times these guys have been out of the game for awhile. And now they’re re-entering the dating scene
but because they’ve been away for so long, or maybe never really mastered it, they experience
a profound lack of confidence when they’re talking to a woman. Now, if you know anything about “the game
of dating” you probably already know that its important to project confidence, but when
you’re an older guy, its even more important, in fact, its critically important, especially
if you’re talking to a younger woman. There is a big reason for this, I’ll tell
you why in a second. One of my clients, Bruce, who’s in his early
50s, went on a couple dates with this woman in her early 30s. And he said it started off hot and heavy,
she was very physically attracted to him, but by the third date, things had cooled off,
and her whole demeanor towards him had changed. And when we started dissecting what happened
it became Crystal clear. The girl, lets call her Tina. She was attracted to older guys. A lot of guys don’t realize that there are
a lot of girls out there that actively want to date an older guy. As Bruce and I started talking about it, he
even mentioned her last boyfriend was 20 years older than her to. But what I pointed out to Bruce, was that
there was a disconnect between her fantasy of this mature, worldly, confident guy… And bumbling Bruce, who came across insecure,
let her lead the interactions, and was actively seeking her approval (instead of the other
way around) I always tell my clients, your age can be
an advantage or a disadvantage, its totally up to you So, in this video, I want to talk about a
few ways that you can display confidence early on talking to a woman. Now these are practical techniques you can
test out tonight. Ok lets get into them. #1. Give her a name There is a saying, He who names, owns. So, this is a little trick to project and
gain a little dominance. When you’re talking to a woman, after she
mentions her name, repeat it, so that she knows you know it. Then give her a nickname. This is the classic move of a man who is comfortable
with women. It shows a kind of “ownership” – you’ve
named her, you’ve categorized her. There are a whole host of reasons its great
for establishing rapport, inside jokes, even later when you’re texting her, and she’s
got a dozen other guys, you’re the only one calling her a specific nick name, she
knows exactly who the text is from. It could be something generic like dude or
bro. Sometimes it fun to give a little masculine
name to entice her to display more femininity around you. Because the more feminine a woman finds herself
acting around you, the more attracted to you she becomes Other good ones are TROUBLE. Kind of entices her to be rebellious. And its playful. Another of the things I’ve noticed that
a lot of guys who are good with women do is call them little. Little girl, little one, little princess,
whatever. But the idea of conveying to a girl that you’re
bigger than her is powerful since women are biologically designed to be attracted to men
that are bigger and stronger. Little is a good word that can be used to
tease her or as term of affection depending on the situation. So, giving her a nickname. Ok.. next 2. Non judgmental qualification In any interaction with a woman, you always
want to take on the role of the judge and not the one being judged. A lot of times a guy, because he’s a little
insecure, will go into approval seeking mode, explaining himself, trying to impress, stumbling
when a woman asks him questions… And your value is immediately lowered when
that happens. Instead practice something I call Non judgmental
qualification. This means you are subtly getting the woman
to qualify herself to you, instead of the other way around. Non judgmental means its more out of curiosity
than judgement, and its more challenging than condescending. So lets say you’re talking to a woman and
you find out she works in a vet’s office. And you ask her why she got into that. Now, her first answer might be that she loves
animals. And now, most guys, hungry to gain rapport
with the woman, would immediately try to show her that they love animals, and tell her how
cool it is what she does. But, instead, qualify her some more. Say something like “yea, but you could have
gotten a job at a zoo, or pet store, or opened a doggie day care… what attracted you to
working with a vet. Now she might say, “well, I’ve always
been good around sick people, and I like to take care of people and animals” See, its minor, but what you did that, is
you made her work more to qualify herself to you. Most of the time, women are used to guys working
to impress them, instead of the other way around. And the fact that you don’t immediately
give her approval or validate her, subtly tells her that you have higher standards. Now, the next little confidence trick I want
to share with you, is lead the conversation. So number 3, is leading the conversation. A lot of times if you’re dealing with a
talkative or chatty girl, she’ll hammer you with questions, and a lot of times, these
questions won’t take the conversation anywhere, and worse, the more questions of hers that
you’re answering, the more she is the one leading the conversation. So you want to get in the habit of answering
and leading. And one way to do that is never answer a direct
question she gives you. So lets say she says: Do you watch a lot of
sports Now, some women are asking that question to
weed out guys who spend their Sundays staring at the TV. So in a way, she’s qualifying you. So rather then say yes or no… Lead her into a deeper conversation. Here’s an example of a better response.. That’s interesting, I spent some time in
Colombia recently, and one of the things i found really interning was that the entire
city basically closes down for soccer games, or they call it football. And at first, I really thought it was completely
unproductive, i’ve always been a business guy, so it just seemed like why would you
let a sport dictate your life like that. But I came to really appreciate the community
behind it, the sense of rapport they had with each other, just in this shared love a team. And man, you’ve never seen a party until
you seen a Colombian’s celebrating their teams victory. Have you ever experienced anything like that,
where a whole community of people are just in complete synchronicity, even for a few
hours. So, you see how I lead the conversation away
from her qualifying me, made it more interesting, and then asked her a deeper question? I mean, how much better is that than saying
“Yea, I’m a huge patriots fan.” Now, One thing I recommend, is taking my short
10 question test, because it provides 10 examples of common dating situations, and it will let
you know if you handle them right, its a little quiz. Even if you’ve already taken it, now that
you have these new mindsets I recommend you take it again and see if you answer it differently.. See, most guys before they take the quiz assume
they’ll do good, but then they bomb every question. The great thing is you immediately get the
results and you discover why each answer was right or wrong, and will help you make sure
you handle things on dates and with women correctly going forward. You can take the quiz by clicking the link
below, your results might surprise you.
