18 Reasons WHY Rebound Relationships FAIL!

rebound relationships never works never have been never will be whether you're the rebounder or the rebound e or maybe your ex left you for someone else and you just want to see how fast the relationship will go into or if they will ride off into the sunset together let me reassure you that's not going to happen 100% of the rebound relationships will end at some point and if they last more than a year they always always always turn toxic always 100% of the times and I wanted to be really careful with my words here because I often times don't don't want to say always or never because there is always you know nothing is never nothing is always but in this case this is always and you're going to see 18 reasons that I'm going to lay out for you right here right now that will show you how how that that rebound relationship will always always always fail my name is is Coach P and I'm a relationship and a breakup coach I'm here to help you go through this challenging time in your life and just Thrive cuz I know what it feels like I know and if you watch my breakup documentary I'm going to put a link right here you will you can see what I went through and this is actually what gave me the power and the strength so if you're looking for answers I got them for you baby let's dive in for this beautiful presentation that I got here for you now the 18 reasons why rebot relationship will fail before I dive into this let me show you something let me just reassure you with this little thing okay this question will rise all the time in the head of the rebound there or the rebound D could I do could I could I done could I have done better could I do better sorry could I do better okay because the relationship started so quickly and and it was so easy it's always very easy to get into this type of relationship this question will rise at some point and this will be one thing that will absolutely kill it absolutely kill it because even if they about to get married and let me tell you I was the rebounder and I was the rebound D and my ex like two weeks before we got engaged that question popped into her head so this is how I know that that that was from a very bitter experience and also when I was the rebounder I was dating a girl and I she was too easy and when when things got really serious I was like you know what I can do better she was too easy and she was really nice and really sweet and really emotionally available but this is how our our human mind works if we don't work for something we don't appreciate it at all so this is number one even before we dive into the to number one but this is something that I want you to understand right off the bat again whether you you're the rebounder the rebound or somebody that is looking for information about you know somebody left you and you want to make sure that their relationship will not work let me tell you it will not so understand that this question will come into mind and when it does this this is not a good indicator okay now number one 100% of the times H relationships uh rebound Rel relationships will turn toxic yes yes yes again for all the reasons that I'm about to list here you will exactly you'll see why exactly there is no way it can be healthy the foundation of the relationship is not healthy it's it's just not healthy and the longer it goes the more toxic it will be they can cover it up with photos with oh we're having such a good time with all that good stuff but it never Works eventually The Mask coming off and the true self reveals itself and this is where there is trouble in Paradise and I see it time and time again I sort my own relationship in with clients that I serve it just happens all the time so just get this number one and you will see we'll Circle back to number one and you will understand exactly why it will always St toxic all right number two psychological displacement this is a very interesting one now when your ex left you H they started their new relationship right where you guys left off for example let's say you lived together and you're about you planned a vacation next week or next month when they left you they will most probably go to a vacation with this new partner or if you guys were engaged or about to be engaged they get engaged all of a sudden and you say we've been together for so long and I worked so hard to win your approval and to be engaged to you and now this person you've been with for week two or a month now you're all of a sudden engaged it doesn't make any sense to you and it doesn't make any sense to them but this is exactly what they do because they copy and paste their emotions into this new relationship it's a new person all right it's a new person and they think that this new person represent everything new but the truth of the matter is that they stay the same so they think that once they can copy and paste the relationship that they had with you into their new one all problems are solved and this is really up and many people when they start a new relationship and they don't know that they are in a rebound you know it's really up because then this person just shower them with love love bombing them which is very narcissistic thing to do if you probably recognize that and you realize that by now and they feel so loved on the receiving end they feel so loved that they say oh wow this person loves him so much I'm G to I'm going to be with them and that's it but this is this is just not good so this could be things like first moving in together fast if you guys moved in together they probably will the same going on vacation like I said post pictures on social media this is the hardest this is really tough one for when you're going through a breakup and you see posts and and pictures on social media it's really really hard to see but by the way your ex must your ex must post on social media that they're doing very very very well because they made the decision to break up with you and in order for them not to lose face they got to show that they made the right decision and they're not stupid they are but whatever now introducing them to to the family that's that's a big one and that hurts like hell but it happens because it's a psychological displacement a falling for fantas fantasized version of a relationship the grass is greener they are sure they are so sure that that this relationship is so much better than the relationship they had with you and or if they were your relationship was great they think that this can be even better sometimes now I know it's messed up but this is the this psychological displacement and this is what's going through their mind and I know it doesn't make any sense to you but this is just how it is okay number three emotional roller coaster they're going through so much right now now since your ex did not process their emotions they will experience lots of ups and downs carry on the same emotional baggage from the past relationship they will they will feel they their emotional state will be so volatile especially if this is a female if you're a man and you got and and your girl left you for someone else that's even you know their emotions will be so volatile that the the new partner will not be able to handle it I saw it many times I saw it with myself I saw it when I was even when I was in relationship and I moved on very quickly to another person I didn't process my emotions from my past and it just haunted me and I remember even my ex when she was with me and I was her rebound she told me after seven months I didn't grieve my ex-boyfriend I need to grieve him I was like what the you're with me now it's been seven months and it happens so this this is also one thing that happens a lot number four both both emotionally wounded both emotionally wounded because two healthy people will never get into a relationship fast never ever ever when you're healthy you take your time when you're healthy you don't go on a vacation with someone that quick you don't give your heart to somebody that fast you take your time you examine them you see how you guys interact if everything is okay if they checked out you know there's a lot of things in a healthy relationship that we will discuss in the next one because number five is getting into a relationship before getting to know the partner this is something huge unconsciously your ex okay your ex or your ex's partner will realize that that this is moving too fast since they don't really know each other and let me ask you a question let me ask you a quick question do you think that this is H healthy to get into a relationship before you getting to know the person no right it's not it's just not healthy thing to do but this is what happens in a rebound relationship they get into the relationship and then they get to know the partner how messed up is that you guys do you think this relationship will last or if this is you about to get into a relationship to rebound relationship just don't do it heal take the time because if you don't you will be so or you will be sorry for that 100% number six bypassing the grief process let me tell you this there is no way to bypass the grief process if you don't go through the stages of grief if you don't process your emotions it will catch up with you at one point at one point or another and if you don't process your emotions of your you not grieving these emotions will faster inside you and you will start developing in you'll start developing depression and your ex will develop a depression if they didn't process their emotions happens all again this is things that happens all the time you can't just move for one person to another and not feel anything and you know just think about it what a cycle you need to be in order for to move from one relationship to the next without feeling anything do you think this person is emotionally available no no way it's not possible so this is why it's just one more reason that it's never going to work never next seven fear or wounded based decisions ignoring red flags both wounded people with insecure attachment style probably avoidant or anxious go into a relationship sounds like a joke to insecure people go into a relationship but this is true it's not funny it's really actually it's really really really sad cuz two people wounded go into a relationship there is no way they can make it happen and I think I wrote it here in some point that they think they can heal let me see where I wrote it that they can heal in the relationship they mistakenly yeah at number 12 they mistakenly H thinking that they can heal in the relationship no sir you cannot do that this is not how this thing works you can't you can't you can't heal in the relationship yes you you you need to come into the relationship healed enough and then you can heal further but if you're just getting out of a relationship there is no way it can happen in a relationship you need to come when you are like I said healed enough you don't need to be completely 100% one trillion per healed but you need to be healed enough in order for you not to bleed all over your partner your new partner number eight too many expectations of their relationship let me tell you something when my ex cheated on me and moved with another guy she said he's the one I'm going to marry him he I don't know how the the relationship ended but I believe she scared the out of him by by by saying like you're going to be my husband like I I know you for a week how can you say that how can you say that and when she cheated on me she's she cheated on me and I found out and they they've been together like three or four days she's like he going to be my husband four days you know this person is going to be your husband this is by the way where I understood that what she was going through is the psychological displacement because we were about to get engaged so Yep this is H too many expectations from the new relationship because they say this person will be everything that I ever wanted everything that I ever dreamed of and they put so much weight on this new relationship more often than not it they cannot bury it cannot it's too much number nine dating the exact opposite of you sometimes by the way sometimes it's the exact opposite of you and sometimes it's the exact same as you because they want they believe that if they can date a different like different kind of you they can fix whatever was broken instead of fixing it with you they take the easy way out and they think that a new person will it will be easier for them that's not true and this will backfire with time or did they the exact opposite of you which brings us to this in their head you are the problem and if they find somebody that is exactly the opposite of you problem solves because they think that the problem was you they don't understand that they have a part in this problem as well it's not just you yep I know I know I know you're feeling me here here I wrote also something very beautiful you can't make the right decisions the right decision based on the wrong reasons and these are all the reasons there is no way they can make the right decision okay number 10 dating the first option available this is happening all the time when they're in a rebound relationship monkey brunching whatever ever you want to call it cheating they are going with the first available option they're not picky at all first person that say what's up or shows any type of interest in them they go they go does that show high value person would you like to date this this kind of person that goes with the first breathing object no I bet you don't but again I'm just here to point out the reasons for you so you will understand why it will not H work number 11 complete denial complete they're denying that completely your ex deny the fact that ER yeah they deny that that you meant anything to them and and you try and they try to prevent to prove it by moving on fast with someone else so they say Hey you meant nothing to me and I moved on it's just they're just denying incomplete denial again this will backfire as well number 10 by the way the one more thing that I didn't cover Easy Come Easy Go um yeah Easy Come Easy Go people don't value what they don't work for I mean I told it I said it before yeah I just remembered so easy come easy go this is one more thing rebound relationship usually they don't really work hard for it they just meet the person like you just all here first best first available option let's hook up let's make it happen and they and they lie to themselves when they say this is divine oh this is God's this I saw all the signs all the signs were there he talked this way or he did that thing or when you look for reasons to move on when you're wounded and insecure you will find any reasons this guy drank latte I don't know like whatever reason might be you see what I mean because people will find excuses and I remember like even my ex when she told me she cheated with this guy she shared with me a little bit she was like I just waited for a cab and he opened up the door it was meant to be I was like Jesus Christ like you you you see what I mean and it happened to me too when I was saying the same thing when I was in a restaurant and I saw this girl and she ordered this like special cacao thing that I used to drink and I was like that's it that's it when you when you're wounded and insecure you look for reasons and you're going to find them anywhere all right number 13 they need to prove they made the right decision and they stay way too long so if your ex is in a rebound relationship with someone any takes too long just know that they it's hard for them to lose face and said I up it's they have too much pride to leave very early so they will stay too long to prove they made the right decision they they will hold on to this person so when they do they smother them and usually this is where the other partner just breaks up with your ex and then your ex comes back to you because she or he realized they up happens all the time and guess what happened to me too my ex crawled back and I said no sir not sir like no ma'am I will not take you back because there is no way I'm taking the cheater back and to be honest I don't even think that you should take your X back even if they are not if if they okay so if they're in a rebound relationship and they moved on very fast from you I don't see any reasons to give them another chance because they didn't improve loyalty I'm going to make another video about this and I'm going to go into depth through if you like if you would like that by the way and other topics that you want need to cover just drop a comment below with the topic and I will cover it but this one is definitely coming so feel so of course like this video comment subscribe because I'm going to bring a lot of a lot of Great Value to you and I'm going to bring it without you see I'm very straightforward and very honest with you guys so so keep in touch here and by the way one more thing if you need need help this is exactly why why why I'm here for so also feel free to reach out my email is in the comment in the description below and yeah let's talk I'm I'm here to help you now number 14 they use the rebound as an emotional crutch of course they cannot process their own emotions they having a hard time so they just use this rebound as an emotional crutch number 15 rebound relationships fail because they're meant for rescue and not not int intimacy it's just rescue it's a Band-Aid they put a bandid where they need to get stitches never going to work never going to last might be a temporary painkiller but that's all that's all it will be no more than that number 16 didn't change they're doomed to to repeat past mistakes when you're ex when you are going through a breakup you're going through it probably right now and you feel this pain and you search for answers you grow do you think your ex is is watching these kind of videos right now no you think that they are learning growing no they don't have this breakup energy this pain to grow and they are sure that there's nothing they did nothing wrong nothing wrong they're okay it's your and that's it and the thing is that I see with breakup videos people say work on yourself so when your ex gets get get back to you're better but they're not better why you need to be better and they are not better and you take them back no way be better for your next relationship be better because you're worthy of it not because of them and I'm going to talk about cases that you can't take your ex back but again if they were with someone else that's that's painful and it leaves a stain for the rest of the relationship it's like after you've been intimate with me you've been intimate with somebody else you kissed somebody else or slept with somebody else can I can I trust you I trusted you once can I trust you again I gave you my heart and you smashed it into pieces how can I trust you and even if you can't forgive it will always be in the back of your mind and get this as men if if you're a man are watching this if your woman went with another guy and you took her back she will never never respect you the same way again never cuz she said I was with another guy and he took me back she cannot respect you for as a man so when they move on you move on and you never look back I know it's hard I know but this is how it needs to be there is no other way there is no other way number 17 they develop codependent relationship this is one of the biggest reasons because now your ex is dependent emotionally dependent on on this new partner for all over needs and validation and this is where they will be very very smothering and this other person will definitely exit at some point because they cannot they cannot take it it's too much and a codependent relationship is never a good one it's never a good one so this is one of the main reasons that it will not work number 18 last but not least I sa The Best For Last for you guys the novelty wears off and the relationship collapses that's it so this happens in the in the comparison stage there is always there is always a comparison stage and when your ex starts to compare you your her new relationship with you you'll always be better always always always always be better so this is where usually this is where I wrote this is when this is when they come back this is where they crawl back happened to me and it will happen to you too when you play your cards right and you go radio silence they will come back I made a video about it so you can check out my in my channel the video about what to do after breakup one more thing where your ex also realize your qualities and discover other aspects of their new boyfriend or girlfriend and say this is a face very very fast fading honeymoon effect and get this before the rebound their self-esteem H takes a heat due to this H to the past relationship ending then during the rebound temporary boost in self-esteem due to the distraction and after the rebound potential crash in self-esteem H when reality checks in this is what happens you guys this is this this is exactly what happens happens and look at this when you get into a relationship there is two types impulsive relationship and thoughtful relationships impulsive relationships for example attractiveness and simple ER consolation short-term distraction this is where you're impulsive and temporary Escape From Pain thoughtful relationships emotional and intellectual compatibility long-term potential and sustainable Joy and peace that's it you guys now you understand why a rebound relationship can never work if I miss anything about why rebound relationship will not work put it in the comments below so I can cover that in future videos of course if you need my help email me and we'll schedule 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