Is there any dark side in your heart that you are afraid to tell others? For example, when someone accidentally says something wrong, you will secretly laugh at the other person in your heart. Or, at work, if you meet someone who is very annoying, you will wish that person could disappear from the world right away. Today, let us talk about " Dark triangle personality traits"! Hiho~ Hello everyone, I am Zhiqi! When I was a child, fairy tales usually had obvious good guys and bad guys. But when I grew up, I realized that the bad guys in many stories actually have a good side , and the good guys also have a dark side, like the crime scene in the movie "The Dark Knight." The uncompromising prosecutor "Harvey Dent" fell into the clown's trap and lost his beloved fiancée. Half of his face was completely burned. Such trauma completely shattered his belief in fairness and justice, and he has been black ever since. Transformed into a "Two-Face" villain who only wants revenge and wants to retaliate against society . He was originally a crime-fighter but eventually became a criminal himself. Could it be that the seeds of evil are hidden in the hearts of most of us like this? Um! Indeed, some psychologists have pointed out that our human nature has some dark parts. They call it the "Dark Triangular Personality Traits." What do these traits include? Would a person with such traits be dangerous? So what should you do if someone around you or yourself has such qualities? But before we start today’s discussion, let’s go into some business service time! [What are the dark sides of human nature? 】 In 2002, psychologists "Paulhus" and "Williams" discovered through research that there are three "dark side" traits in personality that often appear together , namely "narcissism", "Machievillianism" and "psychopathology". " And together they are called the "Dark Triangular Personality Traits." Among them, the trait of "narcissism" refers to a person who is self-centered and often exaggerates his own abilities and advantages to seek the admiration of others , but at the same time, he will belittle them. People around you want to satisfy your sense of superiority . Machiavellianism is about people who do whatever it takes to achieve their goals. These people usually put "their own interests" first and can use and manipulate others as pawns without mercy. Their third type, "psychopathological" characteristics, means that a person has no empathy and no sense of responsibility, will be cold-blooded, and impulsively do things that violate morals and social norms. It is worth noting that what is described here is It is a category of "personality traits" rather than "personality disorders". In other words, although people with these traits may have behavioral patterns similar to "narcissistic personality disorder" or "antisocial personality disorder" , the condition is not serious. It is actually normal for ordinary people to have these "dark traits" who meet the diagnostic criteria . However, the degree of "darkness" may be different for each person . At this time, you can use some psychological tests to evaluate [How dark is your heart? ? 】 To accurately understand one's own personality traits generally requires professionals to conduct formal psychological tests and judgments. However, in order to help ordinary people quickly make simple self-assessments, psychologists "Jonathan" and "Webster" developed a simple version The "Dark Personality Traits" scale is called "Dirty Dozen". This test has a total of 12 questions that will cover a person's behavioral patterns and psychological state . For example, one of the questions is "I have used deception to achieve something." When you answer "your own purpose", you can fill in the question based on this description and the degree of suitability for you from "1. Strongly disagree" to "7. Strongly agree". Currently, there are many Chinese versions of the questions on the Internet. If you are interested, you are also welcome. Come and have a look! According to research statistics, the average person's "sum score" for these 12 questions is usually between 33 and 39. If it exceeds 45, it may be that he has obvious "dark traits". However, some experts also remind that this kind of self-evaluation scale A major disadvantage is that the respondent may not be able to detect a person's true condition because he is concerned about face or does not know enough about himself. At this time, you can try to ask the people around you, because the special behavior style of "dark trait people" usually affects those around them. For people, it is very obvious and may even cause some trouble [Will having these characteristics cause any trouble to the people around you? 】 People with obvious "Dark Triangle Traits" may develop some antisocial or even criminal behaviors in adolescence , such as drug abuse, bullying, or harassment. If both partners have similar behaviors in intimate relationships , "Dark traits" may also be because they can understand each other and get along well with each other , but if only one of them has such a condition, the situation may be different. At first, "dark" people may be considered a perfect partner because they are usually open to others. They appear confident, enthusiastic, have clear goals, and are full of drive. However, once the goal they seek in a relationship, whether it is "sex" or "short-term intimacy," is achieved, they may ruthlessly take the other half away. Throw it aside and look for the next target. In other words, these people usually want a short-term relationship that "doesn't require commitment," and they don't care too much about morality or worldliness. Similar situations may also appear in the workplace . Colleagues with "Dark Triangle Traits" may not be considerate of others , and may even spread rumors behind their backs for selfish purposes , or lie blatantly. If the company's supervisor has "Machievillianism" or "psychopathic" traits, he Subordinates are usually very painful and often face the high pressure and tyranny of their supervisors . However, "dark traits" are not all that bad , because some research has found that a team led by a supervisor with "narcissistic" traits can usually achieve better results. Work performance is not just that. For some people, people with "dark traits" are actually more attractive than ordinary people! [It’s true that men are not bad and women are not loving! ? 】 In 2013, a psychological study found 128 female subjects and gave them some descriptions of masculine traits and asked them to rate "how attracted to these traits they are." It was found that it was related to "dark triangle traits" The score obtained by the description is significantly higher than that of other "non-dark" traits. Regarding this phenomenon, some scholars use the "evolutionary" point of view to explain that because in ancient times when it was more necessary to be fierce and fierce to survive, women's mate selection standards may be biased. Those who dare to rush and fight against men who look strong and powerful to ensure the survival chances of themselves and their offspring. On the other hand , there are indeed some people who prefer short-term passion to long-term commitment , so it is just right to be with people with "dark traits" You can focus on the enjoyment of the moment together. But if you are not such a person and there are unavoidable "dark trait people" in your life circle, how should you get along with them? [How to get along with dark people? 】 Experts suggest that when dealing with people with "dark traits", you should establish clear "interpersonal boundaries" to let the other person know "what can and cannot be done." For example, if a colleague often leaves work to you and lies to your supervisor. , all done by himself Then the next time the other party loses their job , you can make it clear that you can participate "in the name of cooperation" but will never work for nothing again . In addition, if your partner or someone close to you has "dark traits", you need to pay more attention. Have your emotions and behaviors been kidnapped by the other party unintentionally? Because sometimes people with "dark traits" will use psychological manipulation methods such as "PUA" or "gaslighting" to control the people around them. These psychological manipulations For specific content, please refer to the two related videos we have made before. If these controlled people are not aware of their situation and have no other people to listen to or ask for help, they may easily fall into a dilemma where their physical and mental state is getting worse but they cannot escape. Therefore, it is very important to have your own social circle and friends who can listen to you . At the same time, do not accept everything that people with "dark traits" say and do. But in fact, experts also say that different people have "dark traits". The degree may vary , so not everyone is so terrible at deceiving and manipulating others. After all, if we think about it from another perspective, if we have "dark traits" ourselves , we don't want to be treated like a devil . However, if we are really afraid of our own The dark side can unintentionally hurt others. Is there anything that can be done to change it? [Is there a way to change my dark traits? 】 A person's personality seems to be determined by nature , but in fact, some changes can still be made through acquired efforts. A 2023 study by psychology professor "Hudson" found that although most of them have "dark traits" Most people don’t want to change themselves , but the few who want to change can gradually learn to shift their focus from “ own interests” to Over time , some dark behaviors that only care about oneself will be reduced over time . However, we still have to be reminded that "changing yourself" is not as easy as it sounds , and there may even be a lot of self-doubt in the process. So, if you are really troubled by some "dark traits" in yourself or others , it is recommended that you seek professional help from psychological counseling! [Our point of view] When you first see descriptions of the "Dark Triangle Traits" such as "no empathy" and "use any means to achieve the goal ," you may think that this sounds like the characteristics of a "criminal"! But later I took the "Dark Traits" scale and discovered that some of the traits were actually very similar to mine. Especially when I saw descriptions like "cynicism" and "coldness and insensitivity to others." At that time , I felt that most people should have experienced such a relatively dark period. Just like when we were at a low ebb, we might also have extremely negative thoughts such as "the world should just be destroyed." So we can also imagine what would happen if Some people are pushed to the limit by the cruelty of reality and may really consider "arming themselves" as a survival strategy. Just like the evil villains in the movies "Joker" or "Fashionable Villain: Cruella" , they used to just try their best. Ordinary people who are struggling include the prosecutor "Harvey Dent" in the movie "The Dark Knight" mentioned at the beginning. If he hadn't had everything taken away by the Joker, he might not have become someone who only wanted to believe in "probability" and "flip a coin." A villain who decides the life and death of others at will . Of course, criminal behavior that harms others in this way is wrong no matter what the reason is. And in reality, people with "dark traits" will do things that trouble others , and it may not always be that way. It's understandable , but we think that no matter what the source of the dark side is, learning to accept all aspects of ourselves may be the most important thing . In addition, it is precisely because we will inevitably have darkness and low points , so it is also important to have social support around us. Very important! So you might as well pay more attention to your friends, family or colleagues around you. Maybe an unintentional greeting from you can pull him back from the brink of darkness and become a hero who saves the world! Finally, I would like to ask everyone, have you ever been moved by stories about "villains"? Finally, if you like today's video, please share it to let more people know about "Dark Triangle Personality Traits"! In addition, you can also click here to read about "Antisocial Personality Disorder" and "What is PUA?" So, today's Zhiqi Qiqi comes to an end here. See you tomorrow night!
